I am a FEMINIST. I don't hate MEN

I am a feminist, living in the 21st century.

I have proudly included 'feminist' in the introduction of my Facebook profile - not because I wanted the world to know that I am a ruthless 'man-hater' or someone who champions body hair, bra less day or whatever the 21st century has instilled into the brains of many and made us look awful.

It is safe to say that I am a ‘normal feminist’, amongst those who are trapped in the societal love for trends and fads.

I am a little vocal about my thoughts, which might have painted an image of me. You might have laughed about it or it might have you thinking

“She is trouble/she is too much of work/ she talks too much/ women shouldn’t talk too much/how is she going to settle down like this”

Nevertheless, I will persist.. 

Sure, I am a little savage and with my god-gifted RBF I have indeed made an impression – which has also left my mom, dad and friends on over time duties during events.

Apparently I have been vocal as a child, but it was cute then.

I am not perfect, but I am not an extremist either.

Feminism is not a radical ideology or an embarrassment to the society. it's NOTHING negative to get all upset about.

It’s the thought that is trapped in every woman’s mind, but has not been given the opportunity to discuss it out loud until some of us started voicing it out.

Feminism advances the potential of women in social, economic and political roles and opportunities; a movement that strives to provide a safe and fair environment for every women. It works towards helping women enjoy their existence freely.

Why? – Because it hasn’t been the best for us, like forever – has it?

How has it been reading the news lately – sexual abuse, harassment at work and professional roles etc

I remember debating about all these since 13. The guys (who I must say, have grown into fine young men and fathers and we are all good friends now ) used to list down the many destruction caused by women and questioned our capabilities.

I remember being asked if a woman is capable enough to drive a 100 ton lorry – till this date – I roll my eyes.

So today, my ‘feminist agenda’ is to actually bust this whole man hating myth. 

Firstly, you have to understand that women who hate men are called misandrists - they despise men entirely. It’s a like a religion and you should read about it - really.

Or, even if you think you heard me saying a long time – I can assure it was just a temporary post-break up phase that I was dwelling on for some time.

Yes, I have cried over break ups – like any other woman. because feminist are normal people too, we do normal things.

My guy friends have helped me move on, in fact they have sat right next to me with tissue boxes, wiped my tears and assured me things will get better - no matter how much I keep telling them ‘ no you don’t understand,that's right! what would you know about a woman’s feelings’

I would like to apologize for all the 'feminist nazis' (closeted misandrists) who gave real feminism a bad name.

It’s unfair ( for me at least) to use that term because:

• I was raised by an honest man alongside a good woman. A man who bought me books to read, who till this date stares at men walk up to say ‘hello’ . Most of the time – my sister and I would be stuck between being nice and calming down my dad. 
• I have friends who have been there for me at my worst, who have seen me at my worst, who has accepted me for person I am - and once in a while tell me off if I am wrong and for making wrong choices 
• I have brothers who held my hand and assured me that they will take turns to be there 
• I also came to know a man who has helped me cope with my temper tantrums, insecurities, etc - gradually maturing me in every way. 

So I don’t hate men. PERIOD

I admire men physically and mentally.

And I am not really doing this to convince anyone, even myself. It’s just a fact.

Even the ones who left - I don't despise them (initially yes, I won't lie. I am very nasty) - I mean, you are free to make choices. Who am I to say. (Yes, after all that nasty comments, what else right? ) ;)

I don’t believe that all men are pigs – unless you are Donald Trump or Charlie Sheen or Chris Brown or some who growing up to be like these men

Like most men, I have comments about the opposite sex too. But that’s just natural, we tend to annoy each other, but we don’t despise. We can't even live without each other.

We keep our looks in check – which opens a choice of being with or without make up. It incites rage when men comment about ‘wearing too much make up’ or not.

It is also sick when men pass such comments in real life and drool over actresses in the movies. it's annoying because you can’t decide on what you actually want or like.

I have to warn you that if you pass such comments to me – I have about 20 different responses creatively prepared just for people like you. Yes I do allocate time for such things.

I have 10 different shades of red lipsticks, and I paid for it.

So that’s it. My ‘non -Man hating’ blog post.

I think men are great, I love them – especially if they have a lot of things to discuss (not pass but discuss) because that makes him a man who wants to communicate and take in views – that is not part of patriarchy and it’s sexy.

I'll just leave this here before signing off ...

.....because I am just extremely proud of myself to putting the entire outfit together. FYI - the tiara, arm cuffs, belt were all made from scratch. Now you know what's happening when I don't text back.


So yea, I am a feminist; I don't hate men .

Love,
V